Striving for a Better Life

I’ve been thinking about my ancestors lately while listening to the rhetoric on immigration in this Presidential election. Somehow my great grandparents managed to make what was properly an arduous trip to America and become citizens.

One day I hope to look into my family’s genealogy and track down my roots. I’m sort of a mutt with Irish, English, Scottish and Dutch grandparents, but my maiden name is Sullivan, so I’d start with the Irish part of my lineage.

The Sullivans probably came here during or after the Great Famine between 1845-1849 when about two million Irish emigrated with 70 percent of them going to America, 28 percent to Canada and 2 percent to Australia.

When I began reading this wonderful book, I thought about my Irish ancestors and how difficult it must have been to leave their country, probably starving from years of famine, cramped onto a freighter or other in an ill-equipped boat over the Atlantic and then arriving at Ellis Island without money, a job or food. I’ve often wondered what they felt when they passed the Statute of Liberty. Was this country all they hoped it to be? How long did it take them to adjust? Did they ever want to leave? (more…)

Scandal the Great Equalizer of the Rich and Powerful

In a recent writing workshop, a fellow writer told me about a book she just finished, “The Swans of Fifth Avenue,” by Melanie Benjamin.  She thought my book club would like it.

I had found Truman Capote rather odd when I saw him on talk shows in the mid-1970’s.  I was only a teenager and interested in the usual teen stuff and certainly not interested in a “personality.” But a few years later during my true crime genre phase I read “In Cold Blood.”  Personality or not, Capote’s novel captivated me.

“The Swans of Fifth Avenue,” is a historical fiction involving Capote and the ladies of New York’s Fifth Avenue – his Swans. During the 1960’s and 1970’s Capote delighted them with his wit and charm, moving among them with ease, as one of their own.

Babe Paley and her wealthy friends adhered to traditional lifestyles established by their mothers and high society during the turbulent 1960’s. There is a scene where Babe rubs her husband’s feet when he comes home from work, a scene repeated every day.  Imagine that. She was his personal butler – filling every need.  But where was the love?

Enter Truman Capote.  He shook up their lives, made Babe and the other Swans laugh with his quick wit and social satire.  He paid attention to them, praised them, and gossiped with them like teenagers.  He made them feel important – at least for a while. (more…)

The Weather and Book Club

A freak weather storm thwarted plans for our July book club meeting.  Power went out and trees were down so we had to cancel.

It’s funny in a way, I just finished “Isaac’s Storm,” by Erik Larson.  The book is non-fiction about the deadliest hurricane in history, which occurred in Galveston, Texas on September 8, 1900.  Our little puffer paled in comparison and we are grateful it did after experiencing Hurricane Sandy. 

It is so hard to imagine nature’s fury unless you’ve been through it. “Isaac’s Storm,” is an amazing read and great for conversation at book clubs.   You’ll discuss just how far we’ve come in predicting storms and in the bureaucratic red tape that cost a lot of people their lives.  Excellent read.  I haven’t read an Erik Larson book I didn’t love.

Adversity and Life Transformations were May’s book club topics

bfbc 5-13 wineWe had book club at my house featuring some scrumptious cupcakes, good wine and other tasty edibles.  As always we never seem to make it out of my kitchen.  

Over sandwiches and salad we talked about this month’s book “Ten Years Later – Six People Who Faced Adversity and Transformed Their Lives,” by Hoda Kotb with Jane Lorenzini.  All six people conquered huge physical and emotional challenges and some overcame tragedy. See my review to the right under Kotb.

Nothing inspires like a courageous person going through hell and raising above it. That’s what these six brave people did.  No matter what you are going through in your life, there is always someone worse off.  These six people found that special combination of hope and perseverance and transformed their lives.

Definitely worth the read.bfbc 5-16 cupcakes

A BYOB, a Mystery, and Friends – What could be better?

where they found herWe tried a BYOB in Randolph for a nice change for our monthly book club meeting.  It was a small group, but a lovely time. 

The book was “Where They Found Her,” by Kimberly McCreight.  A mystery touted in the “Gone Girl” vein. I found it to be subtler and less jarring than its predecessor. Everyone who read the book really liked it.  See my review on the right under Reviews.

A few of us from book club got interested in the author when we attended the Morristown Festival of Books last October.  She gave a talk and had a Q&A afterwards. She told the audience it took her 20 years and five books before she got published. It may have taken her a long time to get published, but she has certainly made up for it with two national bestsellers and a YA trilogy, “The Outliers,” with the first book coming out in May.  “Reconstructing Amelia,” her first novel was nominated for the Edgar Award.  All of her books have been optioned by Hollywood to be made into movies.

Her publication trials give me hope for my novel.  It should give everyone hope – Just keep writing!

An Appetite for Violets

February’s book club – “An Appetite for Violets,” by Martine Bailey

Group selfie.  Thought to take it after Jean had left.
Group selfie. Thought to take it after Jean had left.

 

 

Still talking about our crazy lives at the end of another wonderful book club.

I couldn’t help but look down at my food and give thanks that I didn’t have to eat any of the recipes in the beginning of each chapter in this month’s book club book “An Appetite for Violets.”   I don’t think they had any Cosmos back then either.

The book, however, was very good.

 

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Holiday Cheer – December 2015

Holiday party 2015

 

Between Friends Book Club enjoyed another holiday party at Son Cubano in West New York on Friday.  What a view!  Our lovely clubette, Fran, graciously hosted the pre-party with a festive signature drink.  Quite tasty and strong.  Then we boarded into a shuttle and were whisked away toasting the evening with champagne.

Always the best part of the night are the people you are with.  A few of our clubettes couldn’t make it, but we soldiered on. Book club is always so much more than just reading.  Over time you come to understand and appreciate everyone for the unique person they are.

I pray we have hundreds more amazing moments and that we all grow old together, reading and laughing.

 

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November 2015 Book Club

bfbc mom childWe had a lovely book club last night.  Our book was “Pieces of My Mother” by Melissa Cistaro.

The author’s memoir is heartbreakingly sad.  She elevated the harshness of the story with elegant prose, but it never leaves the reader uplifted or inspired.

I’m glad I read the book, sadness and all, and I think book clubs can use this book to open up dialogue about our own dysfunctional moments.  See my review to the right.

 

August 2015

patty and meWe had a lovely dinner at Café Azzurro for our book club meeting this month.  Also all of the members were able to come, and even my cousin from England who was visiting joined us.

The night would have been a perfect 10 (instead of a 9.9) if the book had been more suited to book club discussion.    We read “The Ocean at the End of the Lane,” by Neil Gaiman.   The book is an adult fairy tale that didn’t give us much in the way of discussion.  There was plenty of magic and imagination, but little for us to talk about.

So instead we moved right to Patty’s amazing dessert and satisfied our sweet tooth instead.

Death by Chocolate
Death by Chocolate

May 2015 Book Club Meeting

pink heart and bowWe went out to Tabor Tavern Inn for dinner, cocktails and our monthly book club.  So much fun!  I started off with a pink cosmo to salute our romance pick for the month.  Our book was Susan Mallery’s novel “Three Sisters.”

Actually, the novel was more of a chic lit/romance/beach read all wrap up into one.  See my review on the right.

Romance readers like happy endings and this novel ties everything up with a big pink bow.